Have patience with yourself and your body. “It can take some time to get a feel for it,” says Antonia Hall, psychologist and author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life.
You’ll also want to reduce as many other stressful thoughts as possible. “Remember that, for most women, sex starts in the brain,” says Sparks. “Start the mental seduction earlier in the day.” That means everything from dirty talk to cleaning the bedroom so there’s nothing there that stresses you out.
“Focus first on stimulating your clitoris, as it’ll help bring blood into the area and get your G-spot area ready for play,” says Hall.
O’Reilly suggests using a rabbit vibe like the We-Vibe Nova, which “provides dual vibrating stimulation for the G-zone internally and the clitoral head and hood externally.” She adds that it’s “adjustable, powerful, rumbly, and you can use it to rock in a pulsing motion.”
The Womanizer Duo can also be a handy toy, “as the outer arm stimulates the head of the clitoris with pleasure-air technology that uses tiny bursts of air to create a suction-like sensation over the clitoral head,” O’Reilly says. Continue reading 4. Start by focusing on the clit